TANTRUM (Part 2)

After google-d about smart ways to handle tantrum, then apply to my little munchkin. Tough! and of course need zillion of patience!!! Luckily I'm not that easily burst and screamed at him, but my husband yes.. Hahaha he has lesser patience than me.

I bring my son accompany me shopping ( he just 1 year old and just got 'leg'). And definitely he don't like to be held. He want to walk by his own. Every time I hold his hand his like ummphh let me go! Ok.. take a deep breath and calming myself.  Whatever clothes in my hand he want to hold it. So let him and he played with the clothes here and there. When i wanted to pay and take it from him, started crying and lean back his body and kicking the leg. People look at me like I have uncontrollable creature. Maybe in their head, you know your son will behave like that, why have to bring along? Oohhh Poor the mother; haish the mother really don't know how to take care the kids kah?? and start whisper to their kids, you all don't behave like that ok! (my mom did to me. typical. hehehe)

The thing is, its a matter how you handle the situation. Don't think about other people. And yes, there are a few that really judgmental. Just ignored them. 1 - 2 years old act that way because that is the only way to show and expressed their frustrated and stressed. We can discipline them but of course it takes effort and time. We are mothers not a magician can discipline them just in a blink.

What i do when he started to throw his tantrum. First, I  divert his attention to something else. He loves to play at the sofa and walk on it. Afraid he will stumble and fall. So I get something for him to play, something safer at the floor. My role, playing together with him and make him forget about to climb again the sofa. There are a few things that he will picked up and put it in his mouth or bites it. If i don't like it, I substitute with something else. His bear I just bought perhaps. This is one kind of distraction. 

Kids are smart. They know if he cry so loud, kicking his leg if he don't get what he wanted, he will get that thing. yeah easier. We want to cool him off, ok just give him that thing. I try not to educate my son with that idea. I let him cry and after 3 seconds he will cool off himself. And I will consoled him with a hug even though I not agree with the acted. I've read it somewhere, with hugs it shows that you are there and comforting them whenever they feel frustrated.  When he calms, I will tell him why I could not give him that thing (understand or not, don't mind. Eventually he will). We should explain the reason behind instead saying NO. No you can't have this. NO you can't play with this. and they never understand why the can not do this and that.

This works for me and will work to others mother as well. Again, the key to all this we just need to be calm and put a smile on our face when our munchkin throw tantrum at public.